One can only wish that abuse could end for all time. If you are in the position of being trusted by someone to hear their story, this I hope can guide you through this very difficult time.
~ Angels that Care ~ ~ Angels that Care ~
Little Children
I pray for the little children in the world who are being abused, I say a prayer to God to keep all of you safe.
I ask God to protect you and to give you peace. I pray for you to feel peace and love from God. I pray to God to put all of you in a loving home. I pray to God to bring someone in your life to help you.
You are special in God’s eyes and in my eyes. Your are always loved.
God bless you.
To read a story about a little girl who was abused click or copy and paste this link into your browser.
It is fiction but taken from what happened to me and changed a bit.
Pattsy and Patty
Freaked out
ACTUAL EXPERIENCE OF A MEMBER OF ATC
So, I’m standing at the bus stop with the kids this morning when something strange occurred. We have to meet at the end of our hill which is next to a busy road w/35 mph speed set. I make my kids sit in the truck with me till the bus comes as it’s just too dangerous. Out of nowhere I see this beat-up, old, white oldsmobile drive by me and go up the hill to my subdivision. I’d never seen the car before and thought it odd besides I thought he was going fairly fast. He comes back down, makes a quick right and then turns left in the subdivision across the street. He drives around there, comes out and goes on. I thought, “What is he doing or looking for?” So I asked the neighboring cars of parents if they thought it suspicious and they agreed. So I came home and get online to sexual offenders and I SEE HIM.
I am almost positive it was him. I am so freaked out.
My name is Chris,
I am three,
My eyes are swollen.
I cannot see.
I must be stupid,
I must be bad,
What else could have made,
My daddy so mad?
I wish I were better,
I wish I weren't ugly,
Then maybe my mommy,
Would still want to hug me.
I can't do a wrong,
I can't speak at all,
Or else I'm locked up,
All day long.
When I'm awake,
I'm all alone,
The house is dark,
My folks aren't home.
When my mommy does come home,
I'll try and be nice,
So maybe I'll just get,
One whipping tonight.
I just heard a car,
My daddy is back,
From Charlie's bar
I hear him curse,
My name is called,
I press myself
Against the wall.
I try to hide,
From his evil eyes,
I'm so afraid now,
I'm starting to cry.
He finds me weeping,
Calls me ugly words,
He says its my fault,
He suffers at work.
He slaps and hits me,
And yells at me more,
I finally get free,
And run to the door.
He's already locked it,
And I start to bawl,
He takes me and throws me,
Against the hard wall.
I fall to the floor,
With my bones nearly broken,
And my daddy continues,
With more bad words spoken.
'I'm sorry!', I scream,
But it's now much to late,
His face has been twisted,
Into a unimaginable sh ape.
The hurt and the pain,
Again and again,
O please God, have mercy!
O please let it end!
And he finally stops,
And heads for the door,
While I lay there motionless,
Sprawled on the floor.
My name is Chris,
I am three,
Tonight my daddy,
Murdered me.
And you can help,
Sickens me to the soul,
If you read this,
and don't pass it on.
I pray for your forgiveness,
You would have to be,
One heartless person,
Not to be affected,
By this Poem.
And because you ARE affected,
Do something about it!
So all I ask you to do,
Is pass this on!
IF YOU ARE AGAINST CHILD ABUSE!
Post this as 'Daddy ... it hurts'
If you do not send this to everyone you know
Then you obviously don't care about child abuse.
At first I thought this was just a chain letter
and I wasn't going to send it either,
but now I realize that this is an important situation.
At least 5 children each day from around the world die
from child abuse .
Thank You St. Jude for your powerful and successful intercession .
Following are the major signs of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and neglect. One of these, or even several in combination, may not indicate that abuse has occurred. They may indicate accidents or that other medical conditions, emotional illness, or problems exist. It is important to realize that that you do not have to make that determination. If you have any reason to suspect child abuse or neglect, it is best to report it to the appropriate agency so that they can provide whatever assistance is needed by the child and family.
Physical Abuse
Signs of Physical Abuse
Bruises, welts on face, neck, chest, back
Injuries in the shape of an object-belt, cord, iron
Unexplained burns on palms, soles, back
Fractures that do not fit story of injury
Delay in seeking medical help
Extremes in child's behavior-very aggressive or withdrawn and shy (unlike the child's typical behavior)
Afraid to go home
Frightened of parents/caregivers
Fearful of other adults
Consider the possibility of physical abuse if the child:
Has unexplained burns, bites, bruises, broken bones, or black eyes
Has fading bruises or other marks noticeable after being absent from school
Seems frightened of parents, afraid to go home
Shrinks at the approach of adults
Reports injury by a parent or other adult caregiver
Consider the possibility of physical abuse if the parent:
Has conflicting, unconvincing, or no explanation for the child's injury
Describes the child in a negative way
Uses harsh physical discipline with the child
Has a history of abuse as a child
Emotional Abuse
Signs of Emotional Abuse
Low self-esteem
Self-denigration
Severe depression
Aggression
Withdrawal
Severe anxiety
Failure to learn
Consider the possibility of emotional abuse if the child:
Shows extremes in behavior, either overly compliant or demanding, extreme passivity or aggression
Acts either inappropriately like an adult or inappropriately like a baby/younger child
Is delayed in physical or emotional development
Has attempted suicide
Reports a lack of attachment to the parent
Consider the possibility of emotional abuse if the parent or caregiver:
Constantly blames, belittles, or berates the child
Is unconcerned about the child and refuses to consider offers of help for the child's school problems
Overtly rejects the child
Sexual Abuse
Signs of Sexual Abuse
Pain, swelling, or itching in genital area
Bruises, bleeding, discharge in genital area
Difficulty walking or sitting, frequent urination
Stained or bloody underclothing
Sexually transmitted infections
Refusal to take part in gym or other exercises
Poor peer relationships
Unusual interest in sex for age, unusual knowledge of sex terminology
Drastic change in school achievement
Runaway or delinquent
Regressive or childlike behavior
Consider the possibility of sexual abuse if the child:
Has difficulty walking or sitting
Suddenly refuses to change for gym or to participate in physical activities
Demonstrates bizarre, sophisticated, or unusual sexual knowledge or behavior
Becomes pregnant or contracts a sexually transmitted infection
Runs away
Reports sexual abuse
Consider the possibility of sexual abuse if the parent:
Is overly protective of the child or severely limits the child's contact with other children, especially of the opposite sex
Is secretive and isolated
Describes marital difficulties involving family power struggles or sexual relations
Behaves in a sexual manner toward the child
Neglect
Signs of Neglect
Poor hygiene, body odor
Inappropriately dressed for weather
Needs medical or dental care
Left alone, unsupervised, for long periods of time (depending on child's age)
Failure to thrive, malnutrition
Constant hunger, begs or steals food
Extreme willingness to please
Frequent absence from school
Arrives early and stays late at school or play areas or other people's homes
Consider the possibility of neglect if the child:
Is frequently absent from school
Begs or steals food or money from classmates
Lacks needed medical or dental care, immunizations or glasses
Is consistently dirty and has severe body odor
Lacks appropriate clothing for the weather
Abuses alcohol or other drugs
States there is no one at home to take care of them
Consider the possibility of neglect if the parent:
Appears to be indifferent to the child
Seems apathetic or depressed
Behaves irrationally or in a bizarre manner
Abuses alcohol or drugs
Think Your Kid Is Not 'Sexting'? Think Again
In 2010, Arizona and Minnesota became the 16th and 17th states to enact laws encouraging judges to include pets in domestic violence protection orders.
Arizona’s new law -- incorporated into omnibus Senate Bill 1266 and signed into law on May 7 -- encourages pets to be included in domestic violence protection orders and also expands its definition of domestic abuse to include intentionally or knowingly subjecting an animal to cruel mistreatment, neglect or abandonment resulting in serious physical injury.
Minnesota’s pet protection bills also passed when they were absorbed into an omnibus domestic abuse bill (Senate File 2437 and House File 2608), which was signed into law on May 10. The state’s courts are now encouraged to direct respondents from physically abusing or injuring any petitioner or minor child’s pet or companion animal as “an indirect means of intentionally threatening the safety of [the petitioner or child.”
Realization
Years of broken sleep and unwanted dreams--
fragments of horror I piece into scenes.
Unsettling chaos, confusion takes hold.
My vision blurs, I lose focus and with it control.
The ground quivers beneath me, I feel wobbly and weak.
With heaviness in my heart, I collapse upon my knees.
Bury my face and press my hands against my ears.
I begin to gasp for air, trembling inside, as I drown in my tears.
With in tears; reflection, I am forced to face the truth.
Paralyzing terror replaces the numbness that got me through.
Hateful words and unloving hands scraped scabs upon my soul.
I was just a little girl --it doesn't seem so long ago.
I fall into the shadow of my foot steps as I relive it in my mind;
I smell cheap liquor on your breath as I trace each scar you left behind.
I feel the burn of your cigarette as it sears into tender skin.
You're stupid, no good should of never been born; you say again and again
you leave me with a broken soul; my innocence you ripped away.
Can't stand my ground, can barely move, I'll never escape.
I curl up in a ball and fight to catch my breath.
Rocking back and forth I cry as my heart pounds in my chest.
Your hand smothers my mouth; I choke on what you forced me to keep--
secrets from the past that stole my life and my dreams.
Realization
Years of broken sleep and unwanted dreams--
fragments of horror I piece into scenes.
Unsettling chaos, confusion takes hold.
My vision blurs, I lose focus and with it control.
The ground quivers beneath me, I feel wobbly and weak.
With heaviness in my heart, I collapse upon my knees.
Bury my face and press my hands against my ears.
I begin to gasp for air, trembling inside, as I drown in my tears.
With in tears; reflection, I am forced to face the truth.
Paralyzing terror replaces the numbness that got me through.
Hateful words and unloving hands scraped scabs upon my soul.
I was just a little girl --it doesn't seem so long ago.
I fall into the shadow of my foot steps as I relive it in my mind;
I smell cheap liquor on your breath as I trace each scar you left behind.
I feel the burn of your cigarette as it sears into tender skin.
You're stupid, no good should of never been born; you say again and again
you leave me with a broken soul; my innocence you ripped away.
Can't stand my ground, can barely move, I'll never escape.
I curl up in a ball and fight to catch my breath.
Rocking back and forth I cry as my heart pounds in my chest.
Your hand smothers my mouth; I choke on what you forced me to keep--
secrets from the past that stole my life and my dreams.
How many child molesters live in the United States?
Approximately 400,000 convicted pedophiles currently reside in the United States,
according to Department of Justice estimates.*
Are there really female child molesters?
Yes.
A 2000 statistical report by the US Department of Justice* found that female offenders victimized:
12% of victims under the age of 6
6% of victims ages 6 - 12
3% of victims ages 12 - 17
How many victims does a child molester average?
Interviews guaranteeing complete confidentiality and immunity from prosecution, conducted by Emory University psychiatrist Dr. Gene Abel*, uncovered that:
Male offenders who abused girls had an average of 52 victims each.
Men who molested boys had an astonishing average of 150 victims each.
Only 3% of these crimes had ever been detected.
